If your method of discipline is yelling and screaming, you have a problem. You don't understand what discipline means. Yelling and screaming communicates this simple truth to the child, "I have more power over my parents' emotions than they do."
Children don't need parents that have no control over their own emotions. Children need loving boundaries. They need the rules and consequences spelled out for them and applied without regard to emotion. Discipline by the rules you set, not by anger. There is no need to yell. The consequences should be swift and easy to understand.
And it is helpful to walk the child through the process. "What did you do wrong?" "What is the punishment for your action?" After the punishment is applied, there is also nothing wrong with following up with a hug and an, "I love you."
Finally, spanking is an appropriate punishment for willful disobedience. I don't care what any so-called expert claims. Spanking should be a clear and understood consequence for an inappropriate behavior. Spanking is NOT to be an anger release for the stressed out parent. If you strike your kid out of anger, YOU have a serious problem."
Labels: CHILD DEVELOPMENT, KIDS, PARENTING, RAISING CHILD